Live your life and forget your age.
“The counselor who healed my deepest, darkest wounds also gave me ground rules for dating. They were easy to remember. They spelled out the word safe. There are four things she wanted me to be mindful of and the first was most important:
Secret. Can the relationship pass public scrutiny? If a relationship has to be kept secret, you don’t belong in it.
Abusive. Does it harm you or degrade you or your children in anyt way?
Feeling. Are you in a relationship to avoid painful feelings? Is it mood-altering relationship?
Empty. Is it empty of caring and commitment?”
Dating Tips:
1. Stay away from unavailable men
2. Keep no secrets
3. Beware of addiction
4. Be the real deal
5. Tell the world what you want in a partner
6. Ignore the wrapper
7. Create a greater you
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“We are all in this world for something greater than self. We each have a mission, an assignment, a calling, a vocation that is ours and ours alone. The best description I ever read of vocation is by writer and theologian Frederick Buechner. It helped me to fine-tune my focus in life. To paraphrase Buechner, the place God chose for you is the intersection where your greatest joy and the world’s greatest need meet.”
“What is your assignment here? You can be anything - a doctor, lawyer, social worker, mayor, president, columnist - but why not find out what you are called to be? It doesn’t matter what has happened to you, it matters what you do with what has happened to you. Life is like a poker game. You don’t get to choose the cards you are dealt, but it’s entirely up to you how to play the hand.”
“Choices, not chance, determines your destiny. It’s up to you to decide what you are worth, how you matter, and how you make meaning in the world. No one else has your gifts - your set of talents, ideas, interest. You are original. A masterpiece.”
“Don’t try to fill anyone else’s shoes. The world doesn’t need you to be Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Michael Jordan, Maya Angelou or Bill Gates. The world needs you to be you.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s LIttle Detours
“There’s something special about letting your kids see you cry. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you are human. It lets them know they’re allowed to feel life deeply and fully.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
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“Nothing on the outside has changed, but everything inside you just did. Something you can’t name happened, and suddenly, you find yourself at the bottom of a hole deep inside yourself. It’s hard to figure our what send you spiraling down. A noise. A smell. A comment. Something so small sends you back into your own personal darkness, fear and despair. It happens so fast, you don’t know how you got there. Or sometimes you can feel yourself falling in slow motion but you can’t stop it.”
“The goal isn’t to walk around the hole. Or get out quicker. The goal is to fill the hole so no one else falls in it. What do you fill it with? God. Which is to say, love: love of self, love of others, love of God. The last time I climbed out of the ‘I’m not good enough hole’, I prayed, ‘How will I ever believe that I’m good enough?’ The answer came in that small still voice from my heart: ’By helping others believe that they are good enough’.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“We need the Bretts of this world,’he said in his sermon. Brett wasn’t handicapped. He showed us what God expects from us: to celebrate every time we take a breath.”
“Some of us were designed for more, some for less. No matter what, even if we are asked to carry a portion of sky, it is beyond bearable. It is a gift.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“Bruce encouraged me to speak up about everything, to say what I liked and didn’t. I didn’t know what I liked or wanted in a relationship because I never got the change to figure it out. Most people emerge into a sexual being. When you are abused sexually as a chula or raped as a teenager as I was, your sexual identity is stolen. You don’t get to gradually come of age. When someone else’s sexuality is forced on you, it stunts your own growth.
“Bruce would’t have that. He told me that the key to our relationship was building and keeping a friendship, that sex wouldn’t make or break a relationship. He taught me a great eternal truth: friendship comes first. That is the soul of the relationship, he said.”
“When it comes to sex, the most important erogenous zone is between your right ear and your left ear.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“I got in my car and went for a drive. I screamed all my hate and rage at all the people who had abandoned me and hurt me. When I was done I realized it wasn’t my boss or my dad or my mom or the nuns or any other authority figure from my past. It was the number one guy who pissed me off. I took the rest out on God. I cursed God up and down and even dropped the F-bomb. Suddenly, I felt something strange come over me. Peace. Underneath all that anger was the deepest calm. Underneath that pile of resentments was God’s love. I felt an inner glow warm me, as if God was smiling on me saying, ‘Now, don’t you feel a whole lot better?’ I started to laugh. God wanted me to unload the dump trunk I’d been driving around for years so we could get closer.”
“God doesn’t want us to be so holy we aren’t human. God doesn’t want fake prayers and phony praise. God wants an honest, genuine, real relationship.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“The best advice I ever got on crying was to do it with someone. Carol told me that crying alone isn’t as powerful as crying with another person. Cry alone and you’ll keep crying those same tears over and over. Cry with someone and those tears have the power to heal you once and for all.”
“We need to stop hiding our tears and actually share them. It takes a strong person to cry. It takes a stronger person to let others see those tears. We need to be tough enough to be tender, no matter who is watching.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“To me, an argument always started with two sides and ended with one winner. And I had to be the winner. It could never end in a draw. Agree to disagree? That means no one has to be right and no one has to be wrong.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
“Money Problems are never about money. It’s how you think about money. It’s about how you behave with money. That, you can change.”
“Getting out of debt starts with a change in your thinking, then a change in your behaviour. It starts with small steps. It starts with separating your wants from your needs.”
“Living an abundant life doesn’t mean winning the lottery, marrying rich, or getting a raise. It starts with a raise in consciousness and spreads from there. It starts with knowing that what you want isn’t always what you need, and often isn’t even what you truly want. It starts with making smart choices that lead to long-term gratification.”
- Regina Brett, Life’s Little Detours
